2) Do the task with the child
3) Watch your child do the task at hand
4) Finally have the child do the task independently
When a child feels they are independent, they are more willing to listen and participate in the communication occurring and be an active participant.
It is important to use positive reinforcement with children. It is important to catch children doing well and reward them for doing things right. Positive reinforcement boosts self-esteem because it helps the child see themselves as capable. Unfortunately frequent punishment does the opposite, in that it provides the child evidence that they are bad and irresponsible and unable to do things right.
When we have good interactions with our children, communication is smoother when the child has been rewarded for good behaviors. Keep praise, instructions, and corrections short, simple, and specific. This increases the chances that your child will get the message rather than get distracted.
The more you educate yourself and your family members so that everyone can understand the specific learning disability your child has, the more likely that will reduce anxiety and tension that can occur from surprises and disappointments in your communication. Understand the limits of your child and know there is a fine balance between pushing a child just enough to challenge them and to push them over the edge when things go bad.
Listen with your feelings and your eyes, not just your ears. Watch for and respond to your child’s attempts to communicate and help initiate when needed. Be aware that your posture and tone of voice can affect how your child communicates with you. You may need to help your child put words to the feelings that he is expressing through body language or actions.
Rephrase what your child is saying to reflect both its content and its feelings without adding your own interpretation for effective communication so that there are no misunderstandings. Pausing before immediately suggesting solutions or giving directives allows your child a chance to solve the problem on his own and helps foster independence.
Good communication skills are crucial in relationships, in school and in the workplace. When everyone is able to communicate effectively and efficiently, misunderstandings are prevented, we strengthen relationships and decrease stress and increase self-esteem and confidence. Communication is a key to successful family functioning. Researchers agree that clear, open, and frequent communication is a basic characteristic of a strong, healthy family. Families that communicate in healthy ways are more capable of problem-solving and tend to be more satisfied with their relationships.
Dr. Vicki Bolina is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist. She obtained her Master of Science Degree (M.S.) and Doctor of Psychology Degree (Psy.D.) from Argosy University - Chicago Northwest Campus. Dr. Bolina has worked in several psychiatric hospitals, nursing homes, a school system, outpatient clinics, a university counseling center, a domestic violence shelter, and a prison. She specializes in mood disorders and has extensive experience providing therapy for children, adolescents, and adults with a wide range of issues. Her professional interests include childhood disorders, adolescent psychology, and health psychology. In addition to private practice, Dr. Bolina currently teaches online psychology classes to both undergraduate and graduate level students and does freelance writing.